Therapists Blog

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On Truthfulness: A Practice for Our Times

Among the many ways we cause harm to ourselves, to others, and to the world, lying may be the most insidious. Not only because of what it conceals, but because of what it permits. A lie is not simply a false statement. It is a moment of rupture, from reality, from integrity, from relationship. And it is often the seed from which far greater suffering grows.

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Feminism: A Vision for a Changing World

Feminism is a broad and evolving social, political, and philosophical movement based on the belief that individuals of all genders should have equal rights, opportunities, and freedom from discrimination. At its core, feminism aims to challenge and dismantle systems of patriarchy, structures that have historically favoured men, particularly white, heterosexual, and cisgender men, while advocating for justice, equity, and autonomy for women and marginalised genders.

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The Manosphere

The manosphere is a loosely connected yet profoundly influential digital ecosystem that offers men a prescriptive worldview on gender, sex, and social worth. Encompassing dating coaches, fitness influencers, incels, and self-proclaimed alpha males, its core message is unmistakable: modern masculinity is under threat, and salvation lies in dominance, control, and relentless self-optimisation.

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Can AI Replace Psychotherapy?

We create new worlds through our conversations. For now, the ones that heal still exist between humans.

There is a growing chorus of voices wondering whether artificial intelligence, with its 24/7 availability and increasingly human-like tone, might eventually replace psychotherapy. With apps that respond in soothing tones, track your mood, reframe your thoughts, and even simulate empathy, the question is no longer science fiction; it is here.

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Projection and the White Victimhood Narrative

In 2018, Donald Trump made international headlines by tweeting that he had asked Secretary of State Mike Pompeo to investigate land seizures and the “large-scale killing of farmers” in South Africa, a claim rooted not in fact, but in a white nationalist conspiracy theory.

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Gaza and the Inverted Mirror of Whiteness

In the West, Gaza is often perceived not as a tragedy but as a threat, a site of moral confusion, political fatigue, and symbolic inversion. Here, victimhood dons the uniform of an army. Occupation articulates the language of self-defence. And an open-air prison is depicted as a battleground between equals.

How did we arrive here?

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Confession: An Act of Growth and Generosity

What if we reimagined confession as an act of immense psychological courage and profound human generosity? What if confession were not about proving our unworthiness, but about uncovering the truth of our humanity?

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Wabi Sabi – Attuning to the Delight of Imperfection

There is an aesthetic in the world that whispers rather than shouts. It does not gleam with newness or symmetry; it beckons from the worn, the weathered, and the unpolished. This is Wabi Sabi — a Japanese sensibility that honours transience, simplicity, and the imperfect nature of all things.

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The Predictive Mind – An Introduction

The human brain is not a passive receiver of information. It doesn’t simply sit back and wait for reality to arrive through the senses like a camera recording what is “out there.” Instead, the brain constantly predicts what will happen and updates those predictions based on what occurs.

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Attention Means Attention" — A Zen Lesson for the Restless Mind

From the simplest to the most complex, all creatures seek pleasurable, safe, and nutritious environments and avoid unpleasant, dangerous, and barren environments.

If our predictions are distorted, we may be drawn to situations we perceive as safe, pleasurable, or nourishing but encounter the opposite. Thought, speech and action are driven by habit, with craving at the root.

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The Intersection of Freud's Drive Theory, Darwin's Evolutionary Theory, and Buddhist Philosophy

The convergence of Sigmund Freud's Drive Theory, Charles Darwin's Theory of Evolution, and Buddhist philosophy offer a template for understanding human behaviour and consciousness. Each of these frameworks, while arising from different contexts and disciplines, intersects at critical points, providing a perspective on the nature of human existence.

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The Quadrants of Humility

The concept of humility can be complex and multifaceted, often represented in various ways. One way to understand and explore humility is by considering it through the lens of quadrants.

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Menopause Part 2 - Lucie Oliver

To understand how far-reaching the menopause is, it can be useful to view the experience through the ‘bio/psycho/social model’. This allows for different strands to be considered and perhaps recognise where elements overlap. The social aspect of menopause can be particularly interesting, as depending on our culture, we may have been taught that the menopause is to be quietly tolerated.

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The Black Dog and the Golden Thread

This blog is a series of random reflections on this quest — both mine and potentially yours. Time and repeated encounters with emotional anguish have only fuelled my determination to delve deeper into this exploration. Mastering this journey means understanding the questions to ask and which questions offer no profitability in the journey to an awakened life.

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Meditation, Discipline, and Generosity

Eliud Kipchoge, an elite Kenyan marathon runner, has eloquently compared discipline to the process of building muscle, emphasising its centrality to personal growth. His words reflect not only the determination required in sports but also resonate with deeper philosophical practices, such as meditation and generosity. This blog explores the connection between these seemingly disparate concepts.

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Managing Distracting & Painful Thoughts

The Vitakkasanthana Sutta, also known as the "Discourse on the Removal of Distracting Thoughts," is a practical guide from the Buddhist teachings for managing harmful or distracting thoughts. It proposes five strategies that can help us to foster a more peaceful and focused mind.

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Menopause by Lucie Oliver

Hello and welcome to my page, which is dedicated to providing information and resources relating to the peri-menopause and menopause

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