Roy Raubenheimer‍ - ‍Humanistic Counsellor

When did you last feel completely yourself? Not the version of you that manages, performs or holds it together. But actually yourself?

My name is Roy. I'm a Humanistic Counsellor, trained at the Metanoia Institute in London (BSc Hons).

I work with people wherever they are. Whether things have recently come to a head, or whether something has been quietly bothering them for years. Often, they can't say exactly what it is. They just know that somewhere along the way, something of the real person got lost.

I came to counselling partly through my own experience of learning which parts of myself were acceptable and which parts had to stay hidden. That experience made immediate sense of what I began to encounter in the room. Men and women who had been carrying things for longer than they needed to. And in whose relief at finally having a space, I recognised something familiar.

We all carry the weight of the worlds we grew up in. Shaped by our families, our cultures, our class, our gender, and so much else besides. The scripts we absorbed. The parts of us that learned to go quiet. I'm interested in what happens when those parts finally find a space where they don't have to.

I work with the whole person. Not just thoughts and feelings, but the way experience lives in the body. The tension that won't release. The stomach that won't settle. The exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix.

What I try to offer is a relationship that's genuine, warm and non-judgemental. Where you don't have to perform or have the right words. Where what you actually feel, need and are actually matters.

Whether something is breaking down in your relationships, you're feeling disconnected from yourself, carrying an anxiety or anger you don't fully understand, or simply sensing that something essential has gone quiet, I'd like to hear from you.

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." — Carl Rogers